CBC News: Marketplace presents - Buying into Sexy - image from a jean company ad showing a woman from the waist down, posing in a mini skirt.
A powerful report on how marketers are selling a grown-up, sexy image to pre-teen girls. 
Then we check in with boys to find out what they think about girls dressing sexy.

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Buying into Sexy: The sexing up of tweens
Broadcast: January 9, 2005
http://www.cbc.ca/consumers/market/files/money/sexy/index.html
Watch the half hour special: Watch 'Buying into Sexy' and 'Buying into Bimbo' (Runs 24:39) 

Advertisement showing three pre-teen girls posing in colourful,tight outfits. An advertisement for a pre-teen girls clothing company.

When you were nine, what did you want? A Barbie doll? A train set?

These days, young boys and girls are hungry for something else: padded bras and flirting tips, video games with bikini-clad babes and music videos that feature plenty of sexual innuendo.

Sex has always sold, but now it’s children that are buying. Tweens, kids aged eight to 14, are a hot target for companies. And now more than ever, sex is being used to get their dollars.

Tweens are being bombarded with sexy images by the makers of clothes, toys, video games, music videos -- all aimed at getting this freshly- coveted demographic to buy, buy and buy some more.

To get a sense of their world, we spend a day with 12-year-old Amanda.

Amanda Amanda, 12, says 'You get more attention' when you wear sexy clothes.

“Tweens, we don’t want to be kids anymore,” she says. “But I guess we also don’t want to have all this responsibility, we just want to have fun.”

We decide to tally up how many sexed-up images Amanda sees in an average day. We wake her up at her mom’s house at 7:00 to start our count. Her bedroom is bright pink, from the walls to the bedspread. Plastic stars dangle from the ceiling.

“I think that whole glittery thing is still a little bit of the child in her,” says Amanda’s mom, Alma. “She’s still got a bit of that, but now … it’s more of a sexy look.

"I think it’s just the influence of pop stars. I don’t think it’s that she wants to look sexy. Not for boys. I don't think she's even noticed boys yet.”

La Senza Girl bra (pink wth flower lace along the top). This padded bra from La Senza Girl is size “30 AA.” (The national average bra size is “36 C.”) Amanda jokes that it wouldn't fit her three-year-old cousin.

Early in the day, from tween magazines, the internet and television, our count of sexy images is already at 126.

Then Amanda heads out shopping with two friends, Natasha and Alexia.

At the mall, there are entire chains devoted to tween shoppers: stores full of racy clothing, make-up and even lingerie for girls who may not have hit puberty.

“When you're that young, you don't really need a bra,” says Amanda. “I guess it just makes them feel more mature.”

Alexia picks up a tiny pink bra. She holds it up to her chest to show how small it is. Amanda jokes that the La Senza bra wouldn’t fit her three-year-old cousin.

Amanda, Natasha and Alexia on a swing. Amanda, Natasha and Alexia

After the shopping trip we ask the girls why they like to buy sexy clothes. “You get more attention,” says Amanda. “And strange guys come up to you and try and get you to go to nightclubs.”

“A lot of guys stare,” adds Natasha.

Alexia brings up another tween fad: "sex bracelets." They’re cheap, colourful jelly bracelets that Alexia says carry sexual connotations:

“Pink means ‘kiss,’ blue means ‘blow job’ and white means 'lap dance' ... If a guy pulls it off you, it means you have to do it. But most girls don’t do the stuff. They just wear them for fun. I think they look cool and they’re like fun to play with.”

So-called 'sex bracelets' - colourful jelly bracelets. Whether the alleged 'secret meanings' behind so-called 'sex bracelets' is true, the fad is another example of how kids' sexual awareness is high.

Jelly bracelets:
an invitation to sex?

from the Netlore Archive at about.com

Sex bracelets
article by Barbara Mikkelson
from snopes.com

Wearing so-called “sex bracelets” doesn’t mean kids are having sex. In fact, the "secret meanings" allegedly embedded in the bracelets seem to be believed more by adults than by the kids themselves. That said, the bracelet phenomenon is another example of how kids’ sexual awareness is high.

“I feel there’s pressure because everyone else wears [sexy clothes]," says Amanda. "You don’t want to be left out,” says Alexia. “Yeah, yeah. And you don't want to be a loner,” adds Amanda.

“Some parents don’t want their children dressing that way,” says Alexia. “But then I find that just makes kids want to do it more,” quips Amanda. “If you chain your children too much they’ll just do it anyway ‘cause they’re trying to get you angry,” adds Alexia.

“People change in the washrooms at school when they get there,” says Amanda. “That’s what I used to do,” says Alexia.

By the end of the day, including our visit to the mall, Amanda has seen about 280 sexy images.
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Sex sells: Marketing and 'age compression'
Broadcast: January 9, 2005
Amanda wearing a shirt that reads 'Very Sexy' in bold letters across the chest. 'Age compression' is a marketing strategy in which adult products and attitude are pushed on younger kids.

Eight to 14 year-olds have money. They spend $1.7 billion of their own cash, and marketers know it.

The industry even has a name for its strategy of getting tweens to buy sexy stuff. It’s called “age compression,” pushing adult products and teen attitude on younger and younger kids.

The kids may not get the innuendo; but what they know is that sexy is “cool.”

At Amanda’s school, we meet Shari Graydon. She just wrote a book for kids about beauty stereotypes and advertising. But even Graydon was shocked by what we picked up for children at the mall: a padded push-up bra from Miss Teen, a chain that sells to tweens. We found another at La Senza Girl, size “30 AA.” (The national average bra size is “36 C.”)

La Senza says their bra is made for tween girls of various ages and sizes. They add it’s the moms who do the shopping and decide if it’s appropriate.

Picture of Wendy showing Graydon the La Senza bra. Wendy Mesley (left) shows Shari Graydon the La Senza Girl bra.

“I suspect that the advertisers would tell you ‘we’re doing this because there’s a demand for it,’” says Graydon. “They sort of escape –or avoid– acknowledging that they have created the demand… It really disturbs me.”

 

Where do little girls learn about sexy fashions? In case you haven’t heard, Barbie is for babies. These days, “Bratz” dolls are the thing. They’re marketed to girls as young as four – complete with skimpy clothes and heavy make-up, they're billed as boy crazy fashion fiends.

And as soon as they can read, girls can buy the Bratz “Superstyling Funktivity Book,” which reads like a Cosmo magazine – only it’s geared towards six year olds.

A Bratz doll Bratz dolls are marketed to girls as young as four – complete with skimpy clothes and heavy make-up.

The Bratz book covers such topics as “luscious lip tips,” “design your own sexy skirt,” “is your crush real?,” “tips on being an irresistible flirt,” and “are your friends jealous of the amount of attention you get from boys?”

“To think that we’re now encouraging kids this young to be that self-conscious about appearance issues is really devastating,” comments Graydon.

“They are everything that Barbie is not,” says Dave Malacrida, chief publicist for Bratz. “Not blond, not a dentist, not an airline stewardess. I don’t know if they have aspirations of being doctors or those professions. [But they’re] really four strong characters. [Bratz is] all about girl power, all about starting trends, making fashion statements.”

But Graydon argues that Bratz have nothing to do with girl power. “This is all about making money for the manufacturers. That’s really what it’s all about.”

A screen grab from Alexia's website, which says things like "Moan it", "First Breath: October 3rd 1992", "Candlez Blown: 11" ... Alexia's website is a scrapbook of her favourite images, ads and music videos.

“It’s a toy,” responds Malacrida. “It’s flat out a really cool piece of plastic, in this case it’s a fashion doll. You want to do something that’s eye opening to get attention and that’s what we do in the PR world too.”

But for Graydon, the issues go far beyond the world of marketing and attention-grabbing toys. “I think most child psychologists would look at this stuff and say 'yes, this is not age appropriate.' And I think that as consumers, we have allowed this to happen.”

How has this happened? There are so many possible factors. Parents are busier than ever, and kids have more money and more access to more media. Some even have their own websites. Alexia, 11, calls her site “Sexi-Lexi,” after her own nickname. It’s a scrapbook of Alexia’s favourite images, ads and music videos.

Ashlee Simpson Ashlee Simpson is the latest tween pop star.

It seems marketing to tweens is just as sexy and sophisticated as it is to adults. Often, marketers hire a celebrity who speaks to that age group -- like a recent ad campaign for Candies shoes that featured the latest tween pop star, Ashlee Simpson. The singer is considered a “good girl” with a wholesome image.

The ad shows a scantily clad Simpson in a sexy pose. There's a teddy bear in the corner, and Simpson's wearing a pair of Candies high heels.

“She’s a little promiscuous, but everything’s covered, and she just looks fun. She looks a little bit sexy,” says Candies’ CEO, Neil Cole.

Cole says the ad shows “a young girl who’s growing up. And it’s a combination, I think in a lot of young girl’s rooms you see teddy bears, and they probably have high heels.”

Ashlee Simpson's ad for Candies. Shows Simpson wearing lingerie, surrounded by Candies bags and pink stuff. Ashlee Simpson's Candies ad.

It may seem to be a mixed message for adults – but the ad certainly hits its target. We show it to Amanda and her friends Alexia and Natasha:

“I like her shoes, her shoes are awesome…” “I like her bra…” “I find teddy bears are in…” “Yeah, I love teddy bears…” “Every girl’s still a little girl.”

Mariah, 11, likes the Candies logo, and that there’s a lot of pink in the ad. Her mother, Toni, says Mariah would probably love to wear something like Ashlee Simpson’s outfit, “because she doesn’t know the problems that she could get into.”

According to Candies, those “problems” can be tackled with a t-shirt and a one-line motto. The shoe company manufactures a shirt that reads: “Be sexy: It doesn’t mean you have to have sex.”

It’s a motto Ashlee Simpson repeats in other appearances for the company. Through its Candies Foundation, the shoe company uses a variety of celebrities to educate kids about teen pregnancy.

Candies' CEO Neil Cole Neil Cole

“Although some people could say it’s hypocritical, we think it makes a lot of sense,” says Candies’ CEO, Neil Cole. “Just because a girl wants to dress up and look good and maybe look sexy doesn’t mean that she should have a baby or doesn’t mean she wants to have sex.”

Wendy Mesley (Marketplace Reporter): Isn’t that a bit of a mixed message?

Neil Cole (Candies' CEO): I don’t think so. I think that if you try to hide and pretend that what’s going on in the world isn’t going on in the world—

Mesley: No, but you can add to it. And you’re obviously adding to the sexualization of tweens, because that’s who [Ashlee Simpson’s] fan base is.

Cole: She sells music to everybody, not just tweens. She sells—

Mesley: Universal says that’s a huge target for her sales.

Cole: Okay. So that’s definitely part of her fan base and definitely people that buy Candies shoes.

A still from one of the videos we recorded on Much Music between 4:00 and 8:30 p.m., shows a woman lying on the ground pulling a towel through her legs. We put Much Music's claims to the test - we watched and recorded videos that aired between 4:00 and 8:30 p.m. and found a number of examples of adult material.

Sex isn't being pushed just through shoes, clothes, toys and magazines. Tweens are big consumers of music videos. Mariah, Alexia and Amanda all say they were nine or 10 when they started watching Much Music.

"At nine or 10 years old, I think you're mature enough to watch the sexy music videos," says Alexia.

Much Music says it’s careful to air sexually explicit adult material only after 9:00 p.m. We put that claim to a test. We watched and recorded Much Music from 4:00 to 8:30 on weekdays after school. We found a number of questionable videos, including one that features strippers at a stag party. It aired at 6:30 p.m.

“That’s the time of day that kids are watching television and Much Music would know that,” says Graydon. “Media producers and companies who are targeting teens and tweens are completely abdicating any sense of responsibility.

“Parents do have a responsibility, no question about it. But kids spend more time with media than they do with their parents.”

Much Music refused our invitation for an on-camera interview. Over the phone they told us that tweens are not their target audience, and that Much is primarily for 18-24 year olds.

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The parent trap: Divide and conquer
Broadcast: January 9, 2005
Amanda's father, Nick Amanda's dad, Nick, says he's not comfortable with the sexy clothes his daughter wants to wear.

Amanda’s parents are separated. Her dad, Nick, is uncomfortable with the sexy styles she wants to wear.

“Amanda spends most of her time with her mother,” says Nick. “She seems to have more influence in terms of what’s current and what's acceptable.

“As her father, I see her as a sweet innocent kid and it’s a bit weird to see her wearing sexy clothes sometimes.”

“I would probably prefer if she wore a baggy t-shirt and baggy jeans,” says Amanda’s mother, Alma. “But she would not like it though. She wouldn’t be herself.”

 
Alma and Amanda Amanda and her mom, Alma.

“Being sexy is, like, I guess you have to follow trends,” says Amanda. “You’re more popular if you're sexy. Do you know what I mean? Because nobody wants to be, like, a loner.”

Alexia is a friend of Amanda’s. She’s 11. Her parents, Nick and Nina, are also split over what’s acceptable.

“I grew up in a very strict Italian Catholic home,” says Nina.

“I wasn’t allowed to go out, no make up, no nothing. So I promised myself that if I ever had a daughter, I wouldn’t let her suffer because I really resent them for it. I think if Alexia didn’t fit in, I’d be extremely crushed, devastated.

 
Alexia and her mom, Nina. Alexia and her mom, Nina.

“I don’t say no to her, because she sees myself, she sees her mom wearing these clothes and high heel shoes.”

As for Nick, he worries that some of Alexia’s clothes look “trashy.” He goes so far to say her shoes make her “look like a stripper.”

“You’re an 11-year-old schoolgirl,” he tells Alexia, “and I want you to look like an 11-year-old schoolgirl.”

“Okay,” Alexia huffs, “but you just called me a stripper.”

“I said ‘the look of a stripper,’” says Nick. “That’s just the look. You don’t look like a girl who’s in grade seven.”

 
Alexia's dad, Nick 'I feel powerless,' says Alexia's dad, Nick.

“I feel powerless,” says Nick. “Because my daughter sees it. She sees it on mannequins, she sees it in the videos, she sees it on people on the buses, on the street, and she says ‘Daddy I want a skirt like that, I want shoes like that, I want a top like that.’ All I can say is ‘Okay sweetie, we’ll go buy it.’”

“I whine and I complain,” says Alexia. “I tell them I’m never going to talk to them again if they don’t buy me it.”

But whining doesn’t work in every family. We meet ten-year-old Mariah and her mom, Toni, as Mariah's getting dressed for school.

“I love this short, nice top,” says Mariah. “I like it’s how it’s tight, and I like how it shows my belly button. It makes me look cooler. Much cooler, really.”

 
Mariah in her first outfit, a short orange top and black mini skirt.
Mariah tries on her first outfit. “I like it’s how it’s tight, and I like how it shows my belly button. It makes me look cooler. Much cooler, really."

But Toni doesn’t like the look. She tells Mariah to change. Despite some loud protests, Mariah finds something else to wear. But she still loves her “sexy” clothes: “They’re clothes that could be really tight that show off your body, you’re sort of half naked in it. You feel, I guess, sexy a bit.”

Kids are surrounded by so much sex. With advertising, music videos, toys, the internet, video games – it’s almost impossible to avoid. And many parents are avoiding “the sex talk.”

“Oh God, no,” says Alma, Amanda’s mom. “She’s far too young and she gets it at school, thank God. So I don’t have to.”

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Talking dirty: Tips for talking about sex with your pre-teen
Broadcast: January 9, 2005
Girl sitting on a bed in her room, cuddling a stuffed animal

It’s important to recognize that your pre-teen probably knows – or at least thinks she knows – a lot more about sex than you might expect. She’s learned about sex from the world.

While your child’s school probably has some sex education in the curriculum, it’s also your responsibility to be involved in educating your pre-teen about issues of physical health and about the moral aspects of sexual behaviour.

Your child needs your input and guidance to make healthy and appropriate decisions regarding her sexual behaviour. Whether she admits it or not, she’s likely confused by what she’s seen and heard – what information she does know may be wildly inaccurate.

The good news is that by talking about sex you can have a positive influence in the life of your pre-teen.

 

FURTHER READING:

Talking to your kids about sex - advice from the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Talking about sex to pre-teens - tips from About.com

Straight talk: Giving your child the facts about sex - from iparenting.com

Talking with your kids about sex - from pre-schoolers to teens

Some tips:

  • Dealing with discomfort. Talking about sex can be uncomfortable for both parents and children. Experts recommend that sex talks should come in small doses rather than as one “big talk.”

    She may not be receptive the first time you broach the subject (be prepared for anything from awkward embarrassment to an angry outburst), but you need to be patient. And you need to listen.

    Listen to your child carefully and respond to her needs and what she’s curious about. Don’t offer more or less information than she’s asking for.


    Talk to a trusted friend, relative, family physician, or other health professional. Don’t worry about admitting your discomfort to your pre-teen. It's okay to say something like: “I’m a bit uncomfortable about talking about sex. My parents never talked about it with me. But I want us to be able to talk about anything -- including sex. You can always come to me if you have any questions. If I don't know the answer, I'll find out.”

  • Talk about body changes and body image. Your pre-teen is undergoing dramatic physical changes in her body. Make sure she has a solid grasp of the physical and emotional changes that she can expect to experience as she passes through puberty.

  • Let her know that sex is normal. Everything she’s seen and heard on TV, in music and from her friends may have her thinking that sex is “weird” or “perverted.” Help her to see that sexuality is not what’s usually represented in the media.


    She might also have some strange ideas about sex that she’s picked up from her peers or somewhere else. You need to listen carefully and dispel misinformation.

  • girl reading a magazine
    Let her know where you stand. Explore your own attitudes towards sex. It's your responsibility to explain your own values about sex to your child.


    Although she may not adopt these values as she matures, she needs to know where you stand as she struggles to figure out how she feels and wants to behave.


    Being honest about yourself and your feelings will help her to better understand herself and express her feelings.

  • Talk about choices and consequences. There are some heavy issues that come along with being sexually active - pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and feelings about sex are important things that you need to discuss with your pre-teen. Help her to consider the pros and cons of choices.

  • Listen, listen, listen – and be open. Be sure that your child understands that she can come to you with any question, no matter how seemingly silly or serious. Talking frankly about sex with your child doesn’t mean you condone sexual behaviour at her age. Be calm and never critical.
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Interview with an expert: Shari Graydon on the sexing up of pre-teens
Broadcast: January 9, 2005

Shari Graydon is a media expert, author and former president of Media Watch. Her latest book, In Your Face: The Culture of Beauty and You, is published by Annick Press. The following is an edited excerpt from her interview with Marketplace's Wendy Mesley.

Shari Graydon
Shari Graydon

Wendy Mesley: Why are [retailers] selling bras for little girls?

Shari Graydon: Well, I suspect that the advertisers would tell you ‘we’re doing this because there’s a demand for it.’ And they sort of escape --or avoid-- acknowledging that they have created the demand...

But you know, just because kids want to smoke cigarettes, it doesn’t mean that we market cigarettes to them… We do in fact market cigarettes to kids, but it’s against the law. And you know, you could argue that this should be against the law too.

Mesley: Why?

Graydon: What we’re doing is we’re encouraging kids to think of themselves as, and dress in a way that is sexually provocative... And it doesn’t make sense that parents would buy this stuff for their kids … This kind of stuff normalizes the sexualization of children and allows people who are already disturbed and inclined to view kids as sexual playthings and sexual objects – this kind of stuff reinforces their rationalization that it’s okay, that it’s normal.

Mesley: But beyond pedophiles – I guess this would probably create a reaction among teenage boys too.

Graydon: Yes, it would… What it does is, is it says the juxtaposition of this kind of clothing and children who are demonstrably not of an age where they are capable of managing sexual attention, it puts the two together in a way that makes the kids vulnerable to attention that’s not appropriate.

Mesley: Does that upset you?

Graydon: Yeah, it does. It really disturbs me. And I don’t understand why companies, the executives of whom have children, produce the stuff and why parents don’t appreciate that this is clearly not in the best interests of their children.

Mesley: We talked to the parents… and the moms are saying, ‘Well, I never really fit in. I want my daughter to be cool.’ And the dads are saying ‘It upsets me, but it’s too hard to fight.’

Graydon: I don’t even know how to respond to that. Does wearing a bra as an 11-year-old or a 10-year-old or an eight-year-old allow you to fit in? Does that mean that everybody’s doing it? That all kids are wearing this stuff? I think parents need to get some backbone and to be able to say 'just because everybody’s doing it doesn’t mean we do it.'

Girl putting on mascara.
"[Tweens] are a huge marketVirtually all of their money is disposable because they don't have to pay rent, they don't have to buy gas for the car."

Mesley: There seem to be a bunch of [retail] chains that sell to tweens.

Graydon: Yes, there are. They’re a huge market. There’s an appreciation increasingly that teens and tweens, virtually all of their money is disposable because they don’t have to pay rent, they don’t have to buy gas for the car.

So all of the money that they have at their disposal is money that they can spend on what they want, as opposed to what they need. And so they’re a huge market. They’re perceived as having and in fact do have enormous consumer clout.

Mesley: Is that new?

Graydon: I think it is new. A generation or two ago, kids didn’t tend to have jobs… If they got allowance, they often had to earn it. Parents who grew up during the Second World War and who experienced shortages were not so flush with cash, and not so generous with cash, in the way that today’s parents are.

And I think there's the guilt factor that comes from divorced parents who feel like ‘I’m not living with their mother, therefore I need to provide additional income, and whatever I can buy for my kid that my kid wants, I’m going to do that.’

Girl sitting on a couch, watching TV.
Parents complain that "the media is encouraging their kids to grow up really fast ... yet ... there is a certain complicitness from parents as well."

A lot of the complaints today you hear from parents are about how the media is encouraging their kids to grow up really fast, that they’re exposed to sexually explicit television shows, that sitcoms like Friends have all sorts of sexual innuendo. Yet these clothing products, and the fact that parents are buying these products, suggests that it’s not really all about the media. There is a certain complicity from parents as well.

Mesley: Why are so many companies making such sexualized clothing for little girls?

Graydon: Because there’s a market. That’s what they would say… We know that kids of any age tend to aspire to be older. They want to be seen as more mature, more sophisticated. And so when pop stars are dressing in a certain way, the audience for those pop stars will aspire to dress like them as well.

Mesley: Do you think that the little girls who wear these outfits, do you think they are aware that they’re dressing sexually?

Graydon: I guess that depends in part on the parents and how parents interact with them and how other people react to them. It also depends on the role modeling in any given family. If a girl’s mother dresses very provocatively and defines herself in a very sexual way and sees that as being fundamental to who she is, then that role modeling is almost more important than what’s happening in the media.

Mesley: How much money do tweens have – or influence?

Graydon: They have more and more influence. In addition to having their own allowance or money that they have themselves, teens and tweens have an inordinate degree of influence over what their parents buy. And we know that today, more than ever before, kids are able to say to their parents ‘I want that.’ And parents are more inclined to give their kids money or buy them specifically the brands and the clothes and even the electronics and the movies and the fast food that they want.

Girl trying on a tight pink shirt that reads: 'naughty', 'gorgeous' and 'Angelic'
"There's been a sea change over the last five years. I would say there's been a big shift and focus on the sexualization of clothes and makeup for children."

I think it is really difficult to be a parent today. I think it’s way more difficult to withstand the onslaught of the culture around us than it was a generation or two ago. There’s a much greater volume of messages being targeted. Ten or 15 years ago, there were Levi stores. There were stores like the Gap that were targeting kids, but they weren’t stores that were featuring these kind of very sexualized clothing. So that’s been a sea change over the last five years. I would say there’s been a big shift and focus on the sexualization of clothes and makeup for children.

And it is very difficult, I think, as a parent, as an adult, to be alone in your stance against that. So if, if you’re getting pressure from your kid, who feels pressured by his or her peers, who feel themselves driven by media ideals – there’s a whole system behind it.

Mesley: Which came first: kids growing up faster or images that made them grow up faster?

Graydon: I would fault the media and I would say that popular culture and the images that are so prevalent are responsible. You could point to Madonna as being the sort of leading edge envelope pusher 15 years ago, when she first did her video, "Like a Virgin," and where she used to wear corsets or bra tops as exterior clothing, as opposed to underneath things.

It doesn’t seem so shocking now. And you know, when she did those things though, it was shocking and she really was pushing the envelope. Just as advertisers will frequently use near-naked people in order to attract attention --because fundamentally the first thing they need to do is attract attention-- I think pop stars in their music videos, in their stage personas, have become more and more sexualized in order to market themselves and stand out in a cluttered media environment.

A Bratz doll.
A Bratz doll.

Mesley: Are you familiar with the Bratz? [Mesley shows her a Bratz doll] This is for a six year old… What do you think of that?

Graydon: Well, you know, I played with Barbies and I used to have Ken and Barbie get together. But it was very domestic, I have to say. And I think at the age of six, developmentally you don’t have the capacity to really comprehend the nuances of flirtation and sexual interaction in the way that a teenager or an adult would. So the emphasis and focus of these toys does seem much more adult than is age appropriate.

Mesley: The makers of these dolls say that they’re the anti-Barbie because they’re cool and they’re fashionable and they’re not an airline stewardess – they’re cool.

Graydon: I’m sure that’s true. What they’re essentially doing is taking their cues from music videos and pop culture, which is obviously very engaging to kids. Six year olds tend to aspire to be doing what 12 and 14 year olds are doing. So it’s not surprising that it would be popular.

Mesley: This idea … they call it 'age compression' – what used to be acceptable for a ten year old is now acceptable for a six year old, and what used to be acceptable for a 14 year old is now acceptable for a 10 year old. What’s going on?

Graydon: I think the pressure of culture is really encouraging kids to grow up faster, to think about things that wouldn’t normally occur to them naturally … at a very early age.

And anytime you say to a kid, ‘this is too old for you’ or ‘this is taboo,’ immediately that heightens the appeal. I think there was a day when toy manufacturers did in fact take a sense of responsibility seriously, where they saw their job as producing toys that were educational -- or, if not educational, at least age appropriate. And that notion really seems to have been abandoned in the drive to increase shareholder value or to sell more product…

I think most child psychologists would look at this stuff and say ‘yes, this is not age appropriate.’ And I think that as consumers, we have allowed this to happen. So one of my messages to parents, would be: if you are concerned about the direction that we’re going that is reflected in these products, we need to collectively speak up and remind producers and advertisers and companies that children and childhood is a very particular time …

What I find so depressing about this is that adult women are concerned and preoccupied enough with the pressure to live up to unattainable physical ideals. And to think that we’re now encouraging kids this young to be that self-conscious about appearance issues is really devastating… What it does is take away emphasis that would otherwise be on learning, curiosity, mastering a sport, playing an instrument, defining yourself in term of the friends that you make and the things that you do and the things that you think – as opposed to how you appear to other people.

Mesley: The maker of Bratz, when I raised some of these issues with him, he said ‘it’s just a toy.’

Graydon: Toys are significant items in kids’ lives. The relationship that a child establishes with a toy is something where they endow the toy with dreams and hopes and aspirations. They interact with the toy. Girls in particular, we know do a lot of role-playing with dolls.

So encouraging them to be role-playing around adult preoccupations, sex, relationships, is really encouraging them not to be a child anymore, is robbing them in a sense of their opportunity to simply explore and engage in a child’s world. I think it’s naïve for a toy maker to say, ‘well they’re just toys.’

The fact is, they would know from the research that they invariably do, the impact that toys have on children and I think that there’s a huge abdication of responsibility in taking that attitude. It’s like cigarette manufacturers saying well, you know, it’s just a – it’s just a habit. And maybe that’s an exaggeration; because these dolls are not capable of killing little girls, but they are certainly encouraging kids to grow up much faster than, than hormones and physical biology would otherwise have kids grow up.

Mesley: The makers of Bratz say that this is, this is all about girl power. This is empowering.

Graydon: This is not all about girl power. This is all about making money for the manufacturers. That’s really what it’s all about.

Mesley: But the makers of the clothing might say it’s empowering for young girls to be able to dress up like that.

A girl trying on an off-the-shoulder blouse.
"Far from being empowering, I would say in fact this undermines potentially girls’ sense of themselves and their ability to exert power, not just through how they look."

Graydon: No, for young girls to slavishly follow a fashion that has been mass produced by a company like this is not expressing their individuality … Girls who emulate Madonna or Britney Spears and dress in a sexual way are in fact leaving themselves open to a power dynamic between men and women that they don’t understand, that they’re not equipped to deal with.

And so far from being empowering, I would say in fact this undermines potentially girls’ sense of themselves and their ability to exert power, not just through how they look.

Mesley: Some of the girls that we talked to … they kind of like the attention. They know that guys are whistling when they go down the street.

Graydon: But it’s such a limited form of power ... Women have been fighting for equality for centuries and we’ve achieved great strides, but we haven’t achieved the strides that we have in terms of being taken seriously in the workplace, in terms of achieving equity politically, by focusing on our sexuality...

It is sexual power, but it’s very limited and … in the hands of a six or a ten year old, I don’t think you can call that empowerment because what is a six or a ten year old going to do with that sexual empowerment? Where, what is it going to get her that she needs or wants?

Mesley: Ultimately, I guess it is the parents’ responsibility--

Graydon: Parents do have a responsibility, no question about it. But kids spend more time with media than they do with their parents. We know that. That’s a reality of life today … They should be exerting more parental control. And you know, all of those in an ideal world may be true, but the fact is that we don’t live in an ideal world and we know that contemporary media, commercial media exert an enormous influence on kids. That’s a reality.

Still from a still from a video that aired on Much Music. Shows a woman with legs spread,sitting on the hood of a black car.
"How can [parents] possibly compete with Much Music and with Teen People magazine and with the onslaught of media images that kids are exposed to?"

And it’s not fair to expect parents who have maybe breakfast and dinner and a few hours at the end of their day with their kids to – how can they possibly compete with Much Music and with Teen People magazine and with the onslaught of media images that kids are exposed to?

I think a parent’s job, when it comes to media, to say ‘yes, they may behave like that in a music video, but that’s not real life. That’s not how we behave. That’s not how we dress and these are the reasons why.’ And to give kids whatever context is going to be accessible to them, given their age level and, and their ability to understand.

A parent’s job is to pass on his or her own values, and if the media are reflecting values that are fundamentally at odds with what parents think is appropriate, it’s a parent’s job to say that. And that’s what media literacy is about, to give kids an alternative to the reality that’s being shown on, on television or in music videos...

Parents, if they are going to allow their kids to purchase these products, need to find a way to give a child enough context so they understand. You know, my suspicion is parents don’t have that ‘sex talk’ because they know the kids are too young. But if you can’t have the conversation, you shouldn’t be giving kids the products that package them in a sexual way.

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Sexed-up ads
Shari Graydon (author and former president of Media Watch) | Broadcast: Jan 27, 2004
http://www.cbc.ca/consumers/market/files/money/sexistads/index.html

When will marketing executives learn that sex doesn’t always sell? Ads
Shari Graydon
Shari Graydon on sexist ads
that feature women in provocative poses might be turning some people on, but they’re also turning some people off.

A recent billboard campaign by boot company Terra Footwear featured models wearing sexy lingerie holding construction tools in suggestive poses.

The company withdrew the ads when consumers across the country took issue with the campaign.

I bet women working in male-dominated industries weren’t amused by the ads and the incitement to sexual harassment they seemed to represent.

We’ve fought for years to be treated fairly in the workplace. When women wear work boots it’s because we’re working.

What were they thinking? Researchers say even if people like the sexy image they often don’t register — let alone remember — the product or brand name.

The good news is that it took a few days of public pressure for Terra Footwear to pull the ads.

It seems that e-mail is the consumer activist’s best friend. With a click of the mouse, you can register your outrage almost instantly. And, it might even result in better ads.


Buying into bimbo: What the boys think

Broadcast: January 9, 2005

Ashlee Simpson's ad for Candies. 

How is all this sexed-up tween targeting going down with the boys?

We showed a group of pre-teen boys the same Ashlee Simpson ad for Candies shoes (see above) that we showed a group of girls.

The girls talked about the shoes Simpson's wearing, her outfit and the cute teddy bear in the corner of the ad. The boys got a very different message:

“Damn she’s hot!” says one. “Look how hot that girl is!” “She has nice legs," one boy whispers to his friend. "She’s horny!” another says with a giggle.

The message is everywhere – in their favourite music, sports, and video games. Boys are consuming a bimbo image of women.

Tony Hawk, the skateboarding world’s most marketable name, is one hot superstar who has his own lucrative game, Tony Hawk Underground.

It’s a game about skateboarding, but the odd stripper flashes on the screen during the action. A strip club is featured in the game’s storyline.

 Tony Hawk's Underground is a game about 
skateboarding, but the odd stripper flashes 
on the screen during the action.


Underground is rated “T” for teens 13 years and over, but we found plenty of tween boys who play it.

We caught up with Tony Hawk on a recent junket pushing the video’s sequel. We wanted to get some low-down on the Underground.

“You know, it's Jackass humour,” he says with a laugh. “It’s stuff that boys like, gross stuff.”

We tell Hawk about the pre-teen boys we found who’ve playing the game. He refers to the game’s “T” for teen rating, and says parents who let younger kids play are doing so “at your discretion.”

Hawk says most of the people who buy his game are teenage boys – and Underground is created for them:

"They love skate boarding, but they like girls too," 
Tony Hawk says of the teens that buy his game, Underground.


“They love skate boarding, but they like girls too… We're just hoping that they have fun playing the game. We're hoping that they find it entertaining. We're not hoping to guide them in how they treat women in their life.”

At an after-school drop-in arcade, we catch up with some volunteers who are trying to give young boys guidance. They see that a leading source of information about sex is now the media, and they’re worried about the message boys are getting about girls.

“Women are glorified as sexual objects in front of these boys,” says Nima, one of the volunteers. “They’re differentiating their bodies with who they are inside. They’re totally separating it.”

“They sell jeans with naked women in bus shelters,” says Myke. “You can’t ignore that. It’s hard to.”
 
These guys volunteer at an 
arcade drop-in, giving guidance 
to younger boys about respecting women.


“You’re waiting for the bus and there’s a big bum in your face,” adds Nima. “You’re just going to keep staring at it and miss the bus right? I’ve done that enough times.”

For Gordon, another volunteer at the drop-in, the majority of images he sees of women in the media aren’t helping young men to respect women:

“The magazine shows it in a sexualized way, that makes it hard for a man like me –or any man– to go out there in the world and see another woman, wearing that skirt, going to work, going to do her thing. It makes me look at her in the way I saw her in the magazine or on the TV.”

“I think that boys are losing more and more respect for women on a daily basis,” says Nima


Companies and products discussed in this story:

La Senza - parent company of La Senza Girl

Bratz - official site for the toy dolls

Candies - shoe company for which Ashlee Simpson is a spokesmodel. See also: Candies Foundation, the company's offshoot organization that uses a variety of celebrities to educate kids about teen pregnancy

Much Music - official site for the network

Tony Hawk's Underground - official site for the video game

More on 'sex bracelets':

N.B. school bans 'sex bracelets' - article from CBC News Online

Student 'sex bracelets' an urban legend? - article from CNN

Jelly bracelets: an invitation to sex? - from the Netlore Archive at about.com

Sex bracelets - article by Barbara Mikkelson from snopes.com

Further reading:

Watching Sex on Television Predicts Adolescent Initiation of Sexual Behavior - study published in Pediatrics, September 2004

MediaWise Video Game Report Card - published by the National Institute on Media and the Family, November 2004

Barbie, Bratz and Age Compression - article originally appeared in the Washington Post

Customer connection: The tweeners - article about 'age compression' from a retail industry journal (Discount Store News)

Way too much fantasy with that dream house - opinion piece from the Washington Journal

Parents gird for midriff wars with preteen set - article originally appeared in the Christian Science Monitor

In Your Face: The culture and beauty of you - website for the book by Shari Graydon, published by Annick Press

Glamour girls - feature from the Louisville, Kentucky, Courier Journal

Mediacs: Building media savvy kids - offers information and workshops, including one called "Beauty and the Beast," which explores how the media manipulates body image and perpetuates sexual stereotypes